Well hello beautiful….
Those were the first words I ever spoke to her and she didn’t even know they were directed towards her. Those words flew out of my mouth as I walked into the room where she was sitting. Those words changed my life that day and I didn’t even realize it. Those words still ring true every time I see her. Those were the first words spoken to Christy. Those words started our story. Now, the rest of the story….
I’m not lying, those were the words I said as I walked into Daniel’s room and saw Christy sitting in a chair in his room. Daniel was a friend of mine who had recently broken his collar bone. I was coming by to check on him and Christy just happened to be there at the same time. I was happy to come check on Daniel but when I walked into that room and saw her there, I was like, um, who are you?
I knew I was there to see Daniel but I couldn’t take my eyes or thoughts off Christy. I remember it so well, I even had a VCR tape with an amazing hit made in that weekend’s Dallas Cowboys game and wanted Daniel to see it. I put in in his VCR and we watched it over and over. I think Christy was bored with it but it is who I am!! I remember her walking out of the room and down the hall to the kitchen to get something to drink. My eyes followed her the entire way but my mind told me to stay in the room and not follow her. I wanted to leave that room and go down the hall with her to talk to her one on one but I just couldn’t do it. Was she dating Daniel and I didn’t know it? Who was she? I had a first name and that was it. I was absolutely mesmerized by her. Her smile, her eyes, the way she talked and carried herself. I knew I had to get to know her better. I was sad when she had to leave and all I could do is simply say, I hope to see you again soon. As I smiled, I winked. Because it’s what I do. I wink when I get excited and smile. I still do but only at her. It’s my way of saying, I love you without saying it. It still makes her giggly.
As I came back to visit Daniel daily, I asked lots of questions about her. I wanted to know more about her and how I could reach her. Daniel and many of our friends told me she was way out of my league and to get over it because she would never say yes to a date with me. They discouraged me every time I brought her up but I kept pushing. I had just recently had my heart broken but I was way over that. I did all I could to talk to my friends about Christy. They gave me just enough to shut me up but I really wanted more. I was out of high school and she was a junior in high school and I didn’t care. I really wanted to get to know her better and was adamant about it. As time went on, she came by to check on Daniel and I got to know her a little better but still, nothing to tell me if she felt the same.
I really didn’t think she felt the same way about me until another mutual friend, a girl, came to me and said, hey, Christy likes you and I think y’all would be great together. This was just a few days before Halloween 1992 and I was in shock. I had been playing my cards close as to not get my hopes up. Daniel had a party planned at his house Halloween night and I was expected to be there. I was fairly hesitant at first because a crazy girl who liked me was going to be there as we my recent ex. Then when I found out Christy would be there, I was all in!! I remember what I wore. Actually, she remembers what I wore too. It was a pair of jeans and a red, white and blue Adidas sweatshirt. I came as myself because I just don’t do dress up. Christy came in this red Mexican senorita dress and she was STUNNING!!!!!!! When I walked in, Daniel’s mom let me know because of the other two girls there, she had asked Christy to kind of be my date for the evening. We were to hang out and when there were things to do as couples, we were to do them together. His mom thought this would be best for me so the other two girls weren’t a bother to me. I had no idea at the time but Christy was just as excited about this as I was.
The only mistake I made that night was not walking her to her car and asking her out at that moment. That moment came the next week when our mutual friend came to me and flat told me to go and ask her on a date before it was too late. It took me 2 more days to get the courage up to do it but I finally did. I was super nervous she would actually not answer the door if she saw it was me or say no. Or even worse, if her parents said no because I was in college. I had lots of anxiety and that wasn’t like me at that time in life. At that time, I was a cocky kid who didn’t know what I didn’t know. I was hot stuff and I knew it. HAHA!! But for some reason, the thought of walking up to her door and asking her out was absolutely freaking me out.
After I rang the doorbell, I stood and waited. I knew she was home because her car was out front. She opened the door and I was so happy. She invited me in but was kind of hesitant because her parents weren’t home but she knew her mom would be home any minute. After talking for a few minutes, I finally got the nerve up to ask her out on a date the next evening. She said yes and we started looking at the paper for what movie to go see on our date. I couldn’t take her out to dinner that night because I already had family plans with a former sister in law and my niece. I wasn’t going to have her meet family on our first date. No way, I wanted a second date!! We decided on the movie Sneakers. Her mom came in from work and we were introduced. She said, “Dennis, it’s nice to finally meet you. I’ve heard a lot about you.” That made my heart skip a beat because I knew at that time, she had been talking to her mom about me!!!
I drove a 1979 Chevy pickup that had seen it’s better days. It’s what we could afford for me to have and I was dang proud of that truck! It had a single bench seat like most of the trucks had back then. As I picked Christy up that night for the movie, I opened the door for her and she made herself comfortable on the passenger side of the truck. From here on out, things got pretty fuzzy for me. You see, I was in heaven and I was nervous. As we talked on the way to the movie, I kept looking over and thinking, I can’t believe Christy is on a date with me. I really can’t believe this beautiful and amazing person wanted to spend time with me. I was in awe and again, I was very nervous.
The movie we chose was showing at the mall. That was when the mall movie theater was the place to go see a movie. We were standing in line waiting to get in when I saw some family members. Aunt Eveline and Uncle Wayne came up to me and started talking to me. We talked for a bit and then they left. As they left, I noticed Christy was pretty puzzled. I knew exactly what she was thinking. This guy asked me out but won’t introduce me to people he knows? Honestly everyone, I didn’t admit this to her for a while but that night, I was so nervous, I forgot her name. It took everything I had in me to not pass out that night from my anxiety and nerves. I simply forgot her name and didn’t want her to know I had forgotten her name. We went into the theater and enjoyed the movie. As we left the theater, it had gotten a little cold outside. My truck was good for most things but the heater wasn’t it’s best attribute. As Christy got in the truck this time, I noticed she scooted to the middle instead of staying on the passenger side. As I got in, she asked if it was okay if she got closer to me because she was cold. I was like, YES!!!!!!
I took her home and walked her to the door. I gave her a good night hug and asked if I could see her the next night. She told me no because she had promised a friend she would go on a date with her boyfriend’s brother. I was a bit sad but I understood. I told her to have a great date and I hoped to hear from her sooner rather than later.
That night, after I got home, my brother asked me how my date went. I walked into his room and said, “Rodney, I’m going to marry Christy Wenger. Write it down, we will be married one day.” He laughed.
The next night, I was going to go out with some friends to a party but honestly, I just wanted to stay home and chill. It was a little before 9 when my phone rang. Remember, this was 1992 and there was no caller ID on my phone so I had no idea who it was. When I answered the phone, I was shocked to hear Christy’s voice say hello Dennis, it’s Christy. I was so happy to hear from her for many reasons but mainly because if she was calling me, the other guy had ZERO chance with her. We talked about her “date” and when she got to the point of, oh, you know, he was weird, touchy and just wanted me to hold his quarters while he played arcade games, I knew I was just fine!
That’s really when we decided to be together more. Over the next few weeks leading up to Thanksgiving, we went on a few more dates and hung out at each other’s houses with our families. We got to know each other and were happy when we were together. After three weeks of “dating”, we were out front of my house and she was about to leave. To this point, every time we left each other, we simply hugged. I had not kissed this girl and I could tell she was getting frustrated and rightly so. She even told me later she thought something was wrong with her or I just didn’t want to. Absolutely not! There was nothing wrong with her and I wanted to kiss her well before but again, nerves set in every time. After that first kiss, it sealed the deal.
We dated for the next three years and on July 22, 1995, we were married. What I had stated on the first Friday night of November to my brother had become a reality. I married Christy Wenger and she became Christy Amason. I was 21 and she was 19. We were too young. We knew that but at time, we didn’t care. We were young and in love and this roller coaster called life had just taken a turn.
Like most newlyweds, it was fun in the beginning. We were still so young and in college and working and we had no idea there was a whole world out there. We were grown ups and poor but we had each other. As days turned to weeks and weeks turned to months and months turned to a year, we started to have issues. We hid from most of them and 18 months into our marriage, I wasn’t sure if it was going to work out and I was sad but I was also prideful and selfish. I remember her coming to me asking me to go see a marriage counselor. I was very against it because I was stupid. Up until that hour we were to go, it was in question if I was going to fight for her or with her about the counseling. We went together and for the first time, I recognized I had problems and so did she. We began working through them and as time passed, we resolved what most of our issues were. Thankfully, Christy fought for us and I followed.
As the years have gone by, we’ve added to our family. We have three kids who are amazing! We graduated from college before having any kids and both of us have owned our own businesses. Over the past 23 years of marriage, things haven’t always been perfect or even good at times. But the love and fight we have for each other has always been there.
More recently, Christy has had to remind me to fight again. Not with her and not just for her but for myself as well. I have become too laid back and honestly, my zest for life just hasn’t been the same. Over the past few weeks, life changes have forced me to look at every aspect of me, her and us. I’m very thankful for this time. It’s brought me back to writing and fighting for what I believe and for my wife and kids. I told her the other day I feel like we are teenagers again. More cuddling on the couch, working on things together and sending each other love notes. It’s been a very nice return to us and I don’t plan on it changing.
I love my wife with all of my heart all of the time. We’ve had our ups and downs but we hold on to each other. We came from different paths to reach the same destination. I hope and pray our kids look at our love story for inspiration and knowledge. We haven’t always made the right decisions, going back to when we first started dating to today, but we’ve always found a way to correct bad decisions. God has brought us and kept us together for His purpose and I’m excited He can use our story to help others. There’s no way I could do this thing called life with anyone else. Christy is my earthly rock and she knows it. She levels me out. She lets me know when I’m being an idiot and she reminds me daily to be great. I have no idea what I do for her but yesterday, she gave me the biggest complement. She told me I was the glue to our family. I was a bit puzzled but she told me I was the one who kept us together. I was the one who made sure she was okay and I take the steps to keep us, us. I didn’t see that so I am thankful to be our glue.
I know the first 26 years of our relationship has had it’s ups and downs and I’m sure there are more to come. But I also know we are stronger today than yesterday because we choose to be. I know our life together isn’t nearly over and this excites me! I look forward to growing old with the love of my life. I’m thankful for a broken collar bone, especially because it wasn’t mine! But without that break, I’m not sure we would have met. I’m thankful I didn’t meet Christy while I was in high school because I’m not sure she would have liked me. I’m thankful it took me weeks to ask her out and I’m thankful she said yes to a 2nd date after forgetting her name on the 1st. I’m thankful she was and is still patient with me. I mean, it took me 3 weeks to kiss the girl of my dreams. What guy does that? I will say this though, I don’t wait any more!!
Thank you Christy Amason for being my earthly rock. Thank you for keeping me grounded when I try to fly in a bad direction. Thank you for loving me, especially when it’s hard. Thank you for being an amazing mom to our kids and thank you for being my best friend. I love you and every time you walk into the room, I smile, wink and say, well hello beautiful. I may not say it out loud because in some cases, it might be awkward but I say it inside every single time.
I love you sweetie!!